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How narcissists react when you are silent

1. They Act As Though Your Silence Doesn’t Matter.

Some narcissists deal with your silence not by confronting the issue, but rather by acting like it never happened. This classic trait of narcissism appears in passive-aggressive behavior. By failing to acknowledge your silence, they are trying to guilt you into doing something. They want to be in a position of power, so instead of taking responsibility, they want you to be initiative by breaking the silence.

2. They Become Uncomfortable and Anxious.

Narcissists thrive on forms of external validation, and silence can strip them of that. Even if they are acting like it doesn’t bother them, they hate it.

No longer able to siphon energy off of your attention and the validation it provides to them, they are now left with their thoughts and this is a scary place to be. They don’t want to be in the context of their own insecurities. They don’t want to reflect on their behavior. Therefore, they scramble to regain control, whatever it takes to do so.

3. You Are to Blame for the Silence.

Your silence, like everything else, is somehow made to be your fault. Narcissists are skilled at physically and emotionally twisting the situation and blaming you. For instance, “Why aren’t you talking to me?” “You are so dramatic.” “I tried to talk and you shut down.” They make themselves the victim so they do not have to take responsibility, and when they act like this, you will end up apologizing, even if it was a narcissist who hurt you.

…they don’t want to be held accountable for their actions, so they blame you

4. They Wind Up in Self-Pity or Destructive Behaviors.

Silence requires a narcissist to deal with an uncomfortable truth about themselves; that is, deep down, they don’t feel genuinely loved. When they only have themselves — and their thoughts — to be available for company, narcissists may begin to question themselves. What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I make anyone happy? Am I unlovable? Narcissists can spiral down into self-pity, and instead of addressing and dealing with their emotional injuries, they may act out of reckless or self-destructive behavior. And when this happens, they will find a way to make it your fault.

5. They Make Jokes to Dismiss Your Feelings.

If a narcissist cannot control you by other means of silence, they will even make a joke about it. They will laugh, tease or mock your feelings, in order to minimize it. “Oh, we are doing the silent treatment now, huh?” “Wow, someone’s in a mood.” This is one means of making you feel unreasonable to need space.

But here is the fact: Your silence is justified.

So, What Do You Do?

At the end of the day, you don’t owe a narcissist your attention, definitely if it is just for manipulation and to control you with it.

If your words can’t earn respect or consideration, your silence certainly won’t earn respect or consideration. And if every feed you give is only feeding their ego, the best thing you can do is back up and protect your peace.

Your silence is always power regardless of what they may do to break it.

~ quora

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