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Do narcissists disappear?

Yes, they always do and usually with little warning or notice. Having seen how narcissists act, I can tell you this is a highly patterned behavior. These are some of the key reasons why they pull a disappearing act:

1. They’ve discovered new supply.

This is the most common and predictable reason a narcissist will vanish. Another person is rubbing their ego and no, it is not necessarily going to be a new romantic relationship. Perhaps it is a work peer, family member, friend, or acquaintance who simply needs to praise and give them attention. Narcissists don’t attach to people based on devotion or love. They attach based on what they can get. So if someone else is going to give them the attention, adoration, or sympathy you gave them, they’ll be outta here in a heartbeat.

What it hurts to admit is that there’s a pretty good chance they never cared about you as a person but as a source of sustenance. They may have said they loved you, but they loved what you were doing for them: how you assisted them, trusted them, supported their lifestyle. The moment they realize they can get all of it from another human being, they ghost you like you never breathed because in their world, human beings are disposable.

2. They’re plotting revenge.

Their silence may have been intentional at times. If you bruise their ego maybe you turned them down, pushed against them, or simply would no longer stand for the abuse they might go dark as they try to figure out how they are going to get back at you. Narcissists are brilliantly revengeful when their ego is bruised. They’ll ghost as they scheme to return often times when you least expect it. They need their return to hurt. Their goal is to catch you off guard, to make you feel the pain, and to take control back by attacking when you are at your worst. It’s orchestrated, and it’s heartless but, sadly, that’s how most of them operate.

3. You’re not easily manipulated anymore.

If you’ve set boundaries, stopped reacting emotionally, or started seeing through their games the narcissist will disappear. You’ve become too “difficult.” What they really mean is: you’re no longer under their spell. And rather than deal with your clarity, accountability, and resistance, they’d rather move on to someone more easily fooled.

Narcissists flee from people who mirror back to them who they truly are. They despise being pushed to see themselves in terms of their fragmentation. When you become someone that they cannot manipulate someone who calls them out and holds them accountable, they are tired. Why keep up the facade with someone that does not believe the illusion, when they can have another that still believes the illusion?

~ quora

…1 and 3 are the ones that are true in my case. Not that he’s found new supply in the first case, but ties into the third one. At least I am not aware of any new supply, but I really don’t care if he has or not. What he has is people that don’t make him take accountability.

I knew for a long time that he didn’t really love me, but loved the lifestyle I provided for him. It was all about his image. “Look at what I’ve got!” …but there was no accountability on his part. He could do whatever, it wasn’t his problem. And if I said something, I was the problem.

Tomorrow it will have been two years since I managed to kick him out. I tried ever so hard for over a year to either get him to leave or take some responsibility for his actions.

Now, he’s gone!

hope you have a great day!
thanks for stopping by!!

…I’ve got a post tomorrow on my thoughts of him being out of my life for two years.